Millions of people type “ I am thinking of having an affair” in to google every single day. It is unsure why. Are they looking for someone to stop them having an affair or are they actually looking for a dating site so they can start having an affair ASAP.
In this article we are going to try and be subjective. We are going to try and give you the tools you need to know whether you really want to have an affair or whether you are just a bit upset with your current situation and an affair isn’t really right for you.
Actual Sex is involved.
An affair ultimately is having sex with another person behind your husdband / wifes back. This literally means going back to someone else’s bed or house and actually shagging them. Are you 100% sure that this is what you want? We would suggest that if you are thinking about it, first off, kiss them. If this feels really wrong then you would probably be making a huge mistake by having sex with them. However, if you did kiss them and really enjoyed it, then perhaps you should start shagging that person.
Why do you want an affair?
People have affairs for different reasons. Perhaps you have met someone and you think you would quite like to have sex with them? Maybe you haven’t met anyone yet and are just getting a bit sick of your partner. If this is the case, perhaps you should begin to explore the reason why you are sick of your partner. Have you stopped having sex? If so, why do you think this is. Is it because they are not attracted to you any more or maybe you are not attracted to them? Maybe they have put on loads of weight and you simply don’t want to have sex with them. If this is the case, perhaps you should pre warn them. Say to them “ you have put on so much weight I am no longer sexually attracted to you” See what they say. This might be the thing that causes them to loose all of their weight.
If however you have met someone and simply want to have sex with them more than your husband, here are some other things to consider. Do you want more out of this man, for example would you actually rather have a full relationship with this man. Are you happy to just have sex with him and nothing else? If you are looking for something more, maybe it is time for a divorce.
Should I get a divorce first?
If you are simply looking for a fling and nothing more, perhaps an affair is perfect for you. But if you have got itchy feet this probably isn’t going to just die away. SO maybe you should get a divorce. However, if you don’t really want to have a divorce as you love your partner, you just want more sex, maybe you should suggest swinging to you partner.